A Charlotte woman’s public search for a husband has drawn more than 240 applications and roughly 1,000 to 1,500 direct messages since she posted a Google form seeking a life partner in late August.
Arin Patterson, 36, works at UNC Charlotte as the senior associate director of a student union. She created a three-page form titled “So…You’re Interested?” and linked it in her Instagram bio, opening a month-long application window that closes tonight at 11:59 p.m. EDT.
“I’m open to meeting a handsome, intelligent, kind, loyal, and generous man who’s interested in coffee dates, dinner dates, good conversation and seeing where things go,” Patterson wrote on the form.
Patterson broke off an engagement in 2019 and moved to Charlotte for a fresh start after the pandemic. She has been single for about three years, despite trying dating apps, in-person meetings and setups from friends.
“A good amount [of my dates] have been through the dating apps and just meeting people that way because that’s socially acceptable,” Patterson told the New York Post. “I have met people in person and gone on dates that way. I’m always open to people setting me up … I have done literally everything that I know to do, which is how I got to the husband application.”
What the Application Asks
The form introduces Patterson as a “people person — optimistic, bubbly, silly, kind and authentic,” and notes she recently completed a master’s degree.
Her listed minimum qualifications for applicants are men between 28 and 47 years old who are Christian, single, and looking for marriage and fatherhood. Preferred qualities include a bachelor’s degree or higher and a height of 5’10” or taller — Patterson stands 5’8″ without shoes and 6’0″ in heels.
She says marriage is the ultimate goal, though she is also open to a relationship for the upcoming holidays. Applicants are asked to answer questions ranging from what they want in a partner to “something you could talk about for an unreasonable amount of time.”
A Mixed Reaction Online
Responses on social media have ranged from supportive to skeptical.
“You will find a worthy partner soon,” one commenter wrote. “I applaud the intentional move.”
“Make another video,” another commenter wrote. “Tell that man why he should make you his wife.”
“If it’s really real…I’m open to starting a conversation,” wrote a potential applicant.
Patterson says she was partly inspired by her parents’ 44-year marriage, and she rejects the idea that her approach signals desperation.
“I don’t think that having a desire for something means that you’re desperate for it,” she said. “I’m just very clear about what I want and very intentional. This has been my opportunity to do that in a fun and funny way, but it’s very much a serious thing that I’m pursuing.”
Patterson said she plans to review the submissions before interviewing and dating candidates, and would be “delighted and pleasantly surprised” if the effort leads to marriage.
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